Thursday, March 13, 2014


      1. You’re defined by the actions you take when no one is watching – In a day where social media is rampant, and you can share anything in a matter of a millisecond, it’s important to teach our boys that you are defined by the good deeds that won’t be posted on Facebook or YouTube. When no one is watching, and you’re all alone, your good conscious is more important than a good comment on your status. Do what is right even when you won’t get the recognition.

2.  Respect your mother – I truly believe that the way a son treats their mother is directly correlated to how they will treat women in their future. When my son holds the door for me when my hands are full or when he puts a blanket on me when I’m sick – those are the things I want him to do for any person he loves and those are the things a mother needs to instill in their son.

      3.. Don’t ever regret being a leader or forging your own path – My son is only 3, but there will be a time when he will cave into peer pressure, or be criticized for not. Making your own path for yourself will never be lonely, because if it’s the right path, you will always have your family and the right friends to support you. Always remember: A lion does not lose sleep over the opinion of sheep.

      4..  Learn from your mistakes, but don’t make them twice – Every mistake and heartache can be a lesson learned if we, as mothers, teach our sons to properly sweep up the pieces of whatever is broken and move on.

      5. Don’t give your heart out to just anyone- Pick and choose carefully who you tell “I love you” to. Those are three words that history has revolved around, books have been written about, and that men have died for. Those are the strongest three words you can tell someone, so only say them sparingly. There is nothing more attractive than a man who knows what he is looking for, and knows that he is waiting for the right person.  

      6.. Money doesn’t grow on trees – Get a job young, save up as much money as you can, and earn your way through life. Teach him the importance of credit, having a bank account, and learning to balance his checkbook. These are going to be vital for when he gets older and wants to finance a vehicle or get a mortgage for the first time.

7.. Don’t raise a sucker – Even though we want our boys to stay naïve and young for as long as they can, we are always faced with the harsh reality that there are scams and scoundrels waiting out there in the real world. Even though we have taught our boys to learn from their mistakes, there are some mistakes that we can prevent our sons from making – and those are the ones that could be detrimental to his future. Teach him to protect his information, to protect himself and to always be aware. Rose-colored glasses can come with a steep price.

      8.. It is okay to be vulnerable – It sounds contradictory to #7, but I assure you it isn’t. Being naïve and being able to be in touch with your inner-emotions are completely different. I would rather my son be able to cry to his mother rather than feel like he has to bottle his emotions inside of himself.

      9.. Where ever you go, you’re representing the values your mother raised you on so don’t disappoint her – When my son is playing at the playground and I see him let a little girl go in front of him, or he holds the slide for the child behind him, a huge piece of my heart bursts for joy. When he gets older, and goes off to college, he will encounter a multitude of people with differing viewpoints and opinions. I want him to be respectful and kind and I always want him to represent the best version of himself.

      10. You are the only one that can teach people how you want to be treated – If you want people to respect you, you have to give them respect. If you want to cheat and lie, then expect that in return and don’t get offended when it hurts your heart. Do good and good will come your way. You’re in charge of how you will be treated.

11.The world is yours for the taking, but you’re not the only one in it – There are two sides to this. First, we need to teach our boys that there are no limits to their success or achievement and as long as they work hard, they can become anything they wish to be. But, that shouldn’t come at the expense of others.

12. Give him every outlet to express himself – Whether that is dancing, singing, sports, gymnastics, or playing an instrument. As a mother, you must navigate him into something he will be passionate about, and that passion will turn into confidence.

13. Be dependable, and teach him to do so too – Being a dependable mother can only translate into raising a dependable man. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Being dependable can turn into work ethic and him becoming a good partner and that can make a world of difference in his future.

14. Learn to laugh at yourself – Sometimes we raise our boys to be too serious. There is no better remedy for a bad day than laughing, and being able to make your son laugh is one of the best gifts we have as mothers. Good looks will fade, but a great personality stands the test of time.  

15. Effort and self-respect go hand-in-hand – Teach your son that clothes and appearance doesn’t define them, but it makes them easier to read. Putting effort into your appearance oozes self confidence. Teach your son the value of a tailored suit because every man will need one – either for a job interview or a date or anything in-between.

16. Closed minds and closed fists won’t get you anywhere – Having an opinion and standing up for yourself is important for self identity, but closing yourself off to other people’s lifestyles, religions, views in politics, or anything else means closing yourself off to learn something new. It never hurts to disagree with someone, but never forgot that everyone is raised differently and you haven’t walked in their shoes. Having different opinions never equates to who is right and who is wrong. You will naturally surround yourself with people who have similar opinions, but never condemn those that challenge your way of thinking. Also, violence is never the answer. If someone swings first, do what is necessary to defend yourself and ensure your well being, and nothing more than that.

17. As a mother, we truly know best – In this day and age, there is so much talk about what is right and wrong in raising a child. Is bottle feeding or breast feeding best? Am I a horrible mother for letting my son watch Yo Gabba Gabba for an hour? Should I feed him organic or non-organic food? There are so many statistics and studies that will contradict every avenue you take to raise your child. So my last lesson is this: There is no better person that knows their child and what is best for them than YOU. My son taught me to focus on the bigger picture, which is raising him to be a smart and respectful man, than to sweat the small stuff (and every study and statistic that comes with it). Every mother could make their own “What My Son/Child Taught Me” list and they would all be different – because what we value for our children are different. Different mothers are the reason that each and every one of our children is raised uniquely. The important part of raising our sons is the final destination, not all of the side streets we took to get there. 

Saturday, March 1, 2014


Let's face it: We will spend good money on a purse, as long as it holds up and stands the test of time. Some people just don't understand the value of a purse that holds EVERYTHING (I call my purse the black hole) without snagging, ripping, or discoloring for at least 1-2 years. 

I came across the Celine luggage tote on Pinterest, I immediately thought: I HAD TO HAVE IT! I didn't care that the front looked like the face of a purse that is sad to be a purse. It was a HUGE TOTE and it looked like it could carry my life, and my 3 year old.

Then, I looked on the website. When a website doesn't list prices (example: Chanel), then you know it's really bad. Like I could finance a car loan with this bag bad. It was. Prices started at $2,000 for the mini luggage tote on eBay, and eBay doesn't have the best reputation for selling authentic bags. Plus, there are only three Celine boutiques so it's difficult to authenticate them anyways. 

So, I decided to search for the best Celine look-a-like for the lowest amount. Most the bags that I found were even real leather.

A Celine Luggage Tote (in all it's glory) Below:

These are the best look-a-likes I have found!

ALDO ( I have no reason why ALDO does not even advertise these bags online ( but they don't. The one below is just one version. They have black, carmel, and multi-color (black, carmel, white) that looks identical but with crocodile pattern. This one below comes in many colors, including this pale pink and black. 

PRICE: $60.00

DAILYLOOK ( This website has AMAZING Celine look-a-likes. It is online only so be sure to read the measurements and colors carefully so you get what you want. Their tote is called the "Large Structured Bag" and it costs $74.99 with FREE SHIPPING for purchases over $75.00! They have SO MANY COLORS too: Beige, Black, Blue, Red, White/Black, and Beige/Grey. 

BAGINC. ( This website has AWESOME Celine look-a-likes in real leather! Their Celine look-a-likes are called The Whitney bag, they come in many different colors. They are priced at $109.00 but free shipping on orders over $99! 

The Whitney Bag (Above)
Also popular is The Lana/Vanessa Bag (Below)
These are both priced at $109.00. The medium totes are $99 and the mini totes are $79. You can see a YouTube review of them by clicking HERE

Going on vacation? Going on a trip? Want to impress someone with a REAL Celine for a short period of time? Borrow it!

You can click HERE to visit Bag, Borrow, and Steal's website, where you can "borrow" a Celine from  $142-$500 per month. If you need it longer, they can automatically extend your borrowing period! 

If you look up Celine look-a-likes online, there are a TON but they either look nothing similar to a Celine or they were in a boutique with very limited quantity and are now all sold out. I have looked at hundreds of websites and these were the ones that were the best quality, looked IDENTICAL, and were always in stock. 

They also have great return and shipping policies, unlike buying something off eBay or an unknown overseas website! 

Saturday, December 7, 2013

How to get rid of pantry moths - Solutions from my home to yours

Hello, everyone!

So, I originally made this blog as a beauty blog, but there's nothing more beautiful than feeling comfortable in your own home. I recently purchased my home in May and since the home didn't come with a kitchen pantry, me and my boyfriend built one next to our refrigerator. What came next: Pantry moths (Indian meal moth, Plodia interpunctella)

I had never seen or grown up with these bugs, so I thought they were just these harmless kitchen bugs that my son would stomp on every now and again. But, a few turned into many...and many turned into more...and we finally did our research on how to get rid of these bugs!

Why are they such pests, you ask? It isn't the adult bug that is necessarily the pest, it's their life cycle. These bugs can lay anywhere from 60-400 eggs that turn into larvae and those larvae eat EVERYTHING IN YOUR PANTRY. Hence, why they are called pantry moths since the adult lays their eggs close to a food source for their babies to thrive off of.

I will guide you through a step-by-step process on how to get rid of these pests. It will take time and persistence, meaning after the initial cleaning madness, you will have to maintain the ridding process weekly, and within 6 to 12 months (possibly sooner), they should be completely gone. I am going to walk you through their life cycle first because that is the only way I was able to kill them. I had to understand how to effect each part of their life cycle and eventually get rid of them FOR GOOD.

Picture of Pantry moth eggs, from Wikipedia

Eggs are extremely tiny, usually smaller than 0.5 mm, so very difficult to see with the human eye. Female moths lay anywhere from 60-400 on a food source/surface, usually in your pantry. These eggs hatch between 2-14 days. 

Picture of pantry moths in the larvae stage, after the egg hatches

Larvae are the MAJOR issue. Once "hatched," their sole purpose is to EAT YOUR FOOD. They eat cereal products, whole grains, dried fruit, pet food, bird seed, chocolate milk (powder), nuts, etc. They are about the size of the end of a pen. After 1-2 weeks of feasting, they seek a nice, dark corner in your pantry (or wherever else) to cocoon and prepare for their debut as a Pupae (adult). (They could emerge as an adult between 2-41 weeks, colder temperatures slow the process). 

Pupae, adult stage

Now they are adults and the only thing on their mind is to find a mate and reproduce, attracted by the pheromone of the female pantry moth. When you see these bugs at night, flying around, they are most likely looking for a mate. The female lays her eggs and then she dies, since adults only live for 1-2 weeks.

There can be up to 4-6 generations of Pantry Moths that inhabit your home in only ONE YEAR.


1) Large trash bags. ($1.00 at Dollar Tree)
2) Mason Jars or Airtight Containers (This is what you will be using to put food in AFTER you have cleaned out your pantry. Pantry moths can chew through ziplock/plastic bags and almost any bagging that grocery stores put food in. Glass, metal or plastic containers only!)
3) Spray Bottle ($1.00 at Dollar Tree)
4) Lysol Disinfectant Wipes or any disinfecting cleaner ($1.00 at Dollar Tree)
5) White Vinegar ($0.82 at Target)
6) Peppermint, citronella, eucalyptus or tea tree (We bought Peppermint because it was easiest to find at Target) ($2.99 at Target)
7) Bay Leaves ($2.79 at Target)
8) Pheromone Traps
9) CatchMaster/HotShot/Raid - Flying Insect Killer ($4.49 at Target)
10) Crack and Crevice Insecticide 
11) Towel ($1.00 at Dollar Tree)
12) Patience and Persistence!

(All together, I spent about $40.00. That is better than having to throw away more food and waste money!)

1) Clean your pantry NOW! Better and more thoroughly than you've ever cleaned it before. Anything that is not in a jar, can or already in an airtight container, YOU NEED TO CHECK. If you find webbing in or around food, throw it away or if you feel that it has already been contaminated, throw it away. I took extra precaution and basically threw out my whole pantry. Cleaning your pantry with the larvae and food removes the larvaes chance to become adults and mate, and also removes their food source. 

Our pantry with literally everything thrown away. Hence the one lonely jar of peanut butter and jelly.

2) Any bugs or larvae/contaminated food that you do find, put in the trash bag immediately. I live in Ohio, so once I finished, I put the bags on my back porch to freeze and kill them. DO NOT KEEP THE TRASH BAGS IN THE HOUSE. Put them in the garage or on the back porch until trash day, and don't leave them up against/touching a wall in your home. These bugs are resilient. 
3) Scrub the pantry with hot water and soap, including all corners, crevices and door hinges. Clean with Lysol wipes/Disinfectant spray after.
4) Mix white vinegar and a few drops of peppermint (citronella, eucalyptus or tea tree) in a spray bottle. Spray everywhere in the pantry and where you saw the bugs/larvae. This deters them from coming back/repels them. 

5) Use your towel (we got a microfiber towel) to dry all your shelves, crack and crevices since these pests thrive off moisture.
6) Vacuum out the pantry and every crevice in the kitchen. The insects feeds off the tiniest of crumbs. Vacuum any adult bugs and larvae. Clean out vacuum into the trash bag. 
7) Lay the bay leaves in the pantry. These repel the pantry moths. Also, and most importantly, put down pheromone traps/pantry pest traps down. They should be in high places, around the same area that the adults fly (the pheromone attracts the adults as if it was a female ready to mate). I put them on top of my kitchen cabinets, close to where the ceiling meets the wall.
8) Use the HotShot/Raid/CatchMaster Flying Insect Killer to spray the bugs. In my experience, the Raid kills on contact. 
9) Before buying new food/putting food back, use crack and crevice insecticide spray. DO NOT SPRAY THIS WHEN FOOD IS IN THE PANTRY. Follow directions on when you're allowed to put food back. 


**Killing the Adults does NOT stop the problem. If you see adults, that means that there are eggs or larvae already and you need to stop the problem at the source...The Larvae!!**

**Other repellents include lavendar, cedar or mint...if you can't find Bay Leaves**


1) Pantry moths can come from the food you get at the grocery store so to keep an infestation from coming back, check any starchy products you buy (wheat, grain, oats, flour, rice) before putting them into sealed canisters. You can also keep these items bagged in the freezer to store until you need it. 
2) Making sure that the larvae have NO food source is a good way to make sure these pests don't come back. Be diligent in keeping the pantry clean and crumb free.  
3) Keep spraying and setting out the pheromone traps at least a few times per week. 


Aunt Norma's All Natural Pantry Moth Spray*

Black Flag Pantry Pest Control*
Found at: Lowes or Home Depot

Pro Pest Pheronet - Pantry Moth Pheromone Trap*
Found at: Amazon
*Please read all warnings on these products! They might not be safe to have around children, pets or food so spray and use accordingly 


-Using a dish of olive oil to attract the adult pantry moths (they get stuck and die)
-Using a glass or wine to attract the adult pantry moths (and drown them)

I hope I helped! I realized that by keeping these pantry moths was a little bit of a lifestyle change! I had to constantly keep food in jars or airtight containers...but it kept things fresher for longer! Be persistent and these pests WILL GO AWAY!

Good Luck!!

Following the steps from my post, I had gotten rid of them within 3 WEEKS and they have NOT returned. The winter has been really horrible in Ohio, so mother nature can take some credit for them not returning.

However, at least once a month I spray with the peppermint/vinegar solution as well as lay bay leaves down in my pantry. There has not been one bug since. 

As always, good luck!

Friday, December 6, 2013

Michael Kors Hamilton Tote Knockoff!

Hi, guys!

Sorry I haven't blogged in a few weeks but I wanted to do a quick knockoff for you guys! I have seen the popular Hamilton Bag by Michael Kors everywhere! So, I have found a pretty great knockoff for you that is very inexpesive compared to the $348-$398+ price point of the Michael Kors bags!

Below is the Michael Kors Large Hamilton Bag:

The Knockoff: ModCloth's Full Course Load Bag:

This one below is in "Red" and is currently 30% off on for the low price of $51.99!

The one below is in the "Stone" color and is still fully priced at $84.99, but that is still an average of $300 less than Michael Kors Hamilton Bag!

From the reviews, the bag is excellent. I have bought from ModCloth and I can personally say that their quality of clothes and accessories is excellent. Also, the best thing about ModCloth...If something is sold out, that doesn't mean it's gone! 

Next to every "sold out" item, there is a "I Need It!" button in red. You give them your e-mail address and they will e-mail you when and if the item returns!

Thursday, November 14, 2013

Barbara Barry Poetical Bedding - Knockoff Look for Less!

So, I promised that my next post would be about design knock-offs of the Celine Luggage Tote, but I lied! I will most likely post that tonight or tomorrow, but I wanted to go over a home decor look for less! I have drooled over Barbara Barry's Poetical bedding line for about a year now, patiently waiting for Bed, Bath & Beyond to mark it down...but no such luck. Even with the 20% off coupon, I would probably have to sell my child on the black market to afford it (which, on some days, seems like a good idea but it's something I couldn't bring myself to do). 

Barbara Barry's Poetical bedding line doesn't seem so expensive with JUST the duvet cover (priced at $159.00 for a King), but if you wanted two pillow shams ($49.00-$59.00 EACH), the 18" square toss pillow ($49.00...$49.00? Did a unicorn make this out of Rapunzel's hair?), the sheet set ($129.00), and the crescent moon quilt ($179.00), you are going to spend around (ON THE LOW END) $630.00! 
(that's not including the fact that you might have the buy a duvet to fill inside the cover, which aren't cheap either). 

Here is a picture of the Barbara Barry Poetical Bedding, in it's entirety and beauty:

Here is an upclose of the decorative pillows:

So, I was looking at TJ MAXX the other day and found a bedding set that was ridiculously similar and a fraction of the price!

And these are the decorative pillows:

The price on the bedding set was ONLY $89.99, which includes the comforter, two pillow shams and three decorative pillows! The pattern and colors are extremely similar

I did find the blue crescent moon coverlet quilt (in queen) for $88.00 on Amazon (search under 

"Barbara Barry Crescent Moon Queen Coverlet Quilt Ivory"), so if you wanted a more complete look, it would cost you around $178.00, with the quilt, which sure as hell beats $630.00! 

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Alexander McQueen Clutch - Real vs. Steal

Hi, loves!

These Real vs. Steals (or Frugal Fashion Find, as I like it call it!) are my favorite! My first Real vs. Steal is for the Alexander McQueen Clutch, valued at more than $2,900. The Alexander McQueen clutch varies in patterns and colors, but they are usually adorned with Swarovski crystals and made from leather or satin. Want a fun, flirty clutch without paying the same amount to finance a new car? Check out my steals below for the McQueen clutch!

Alexander McQueen Clutch, $2,295 (below)

Aldo's Westall Clutch (in blush or black), $45.00, Black Snakeskin Knuckle Clutch Purse with Rhinestone Skull Accents, $39.99

  My next Real vs. Steal is the Celine Luggage Tote! I have dozens of design knock-offs of the tote for less than $100.00! See you soon!


Welcome to Beauty and the Budget!


Welcome to my blog, Beauty and the Budget. I have been employed as a single mother to a beautiful little terror toddler for over three years now, and I have slowly learned how to be fabulous and frugal at the same time! I take the most expensive, in-season and chic decor, fashions and styles and find similar for MUCH less! If you find ANYTHING (purses, clothes, home decor, etc) that you absolutely LOVE but are having a small stroke over the price tag...let me know! I will do my own research and investigating to find you something you love for less, and something that won't cost your children's college fund! I hope you enjoy reading and discovering with me!